Sarover Kaur Aujla on Love, Identity and Finding Her Voice

When Love Is Blind UK introduced audiences to Sarover Kaur Aujla, it was clear she was bringing more than just a love story to the screen. What followed was a very public chapter that quietly became something far more personal.

In this conversation, Sarover reflects on the courage it takes to speak about the things many women are taught to keep hidden. Raised within tradition, she shares what it has meant to step outside expectation, choose herself, and find confidence not in certainty, but in honesty.

That honesty now extends into a new project. Launching this February, Off Script is a podcast co-hosted with her mother, opening up intergenerational conversations around marriage, dating, pressure, and change. Together, they explore what happens when silence is replaced with dialogue and when women are allowed to evolve at every stage of life.

This is not about headlines or reinvention. It is about growth, voice, and the quiet strength of choosing your own path.

You’re stepping into a new chapter both personally and professionally. How does this moment in your life feel, right now?
Honestly, it feels really good. Since the show, the amount of support I’ve received has been overwhelming in the best way. I think something really important happened – people saw that South Asian girls date, and that it’s okay. It shouldn’t be shameful. Love actually has no boundaries. And I say that with my whole heart, it has no culture, no status. I fell in love with a personality. Of course, the relationship ended, but it was a real marriage. And even through that ending, I’ve learned so much about self-confidence, about speaking out, about not being afraid to talk about things we’ve been taught to keep quiet. Divorce, especially, is such an intergenerational taboo. But going through all of this has given me a voice, and I feel ready to use it.

You’re launching a podcast with your mother that tackles taboo conversations. Why was it important to have those discussions across generations, and publicly?
The podcast is called Off Script, and we’re launching in February. I’m so excited, and a little nervous, because it’s the most vulnerable thing I’ve done.  We talk about everything: my mum’s arranged marriage when she was just sixteen, dating, divorce, being the eldest daughter, the pressure that comes with that role. I was brought up very traditionally, so even having these open conversations with my mum has been huge for both of us. She’s had to change with the times, and I’ve had to unlearn a lot too. What I love most is that it shows a mother and daughter can grow together. Our bond has become so strong through this process, and I hope it helps others see that these conversations can deepen relationships.

Many people shy away from difficult topics. What has creating space for uncomfortable conversations taught you about courage?
It’s taught me that there’s nothing you can’t talk about. Courage isn’t this big, dramatic thing – it’s made up of really small internal steps. Being vulnerable is real life. For so long, I tried to be the perfect daughter, the perfect granddaughter, the perfect everything. And honestly, I crumbled under that pressure. Now, living without that weight feels freeing. Life feels lighter. With my relationship, too – it felt so right in the moment. When I first saw him, I could hear my own breathing. We’d connected on such a deep emotional level, and that’s why I truly believe love can be blind. But real life needs time. Time is what really shows you who someone is.

Looking back, did you see the signs?
There were moments. When he said I wasn’t his usual type, my heart dropped for a second. But everything felt so grey, there was a lot being said behind the cameras, and I told myself it would be fine. My biggest learning has been this: ask the questions. Communicate. Don’t be afraid to go deeper. That’s what builds real relationships.

There was also public conversation around your relationship being cross-cultural. Did you experience backlash from your community?
I did. I’d followed an unspoken tick-box my whole life – who you date, who you marry, what will be approved. That conditioning comes from family, community, society, all of it. But when it came down to it, I didn’t care where he came from. I truly believed this was the change that needed to happen. I’d spent ten years dating, trying to do things “the right way,” and it got me nowhere. Going off book for the first time, I fell in love. With the wrong person – and that’s okay – but with someone completely different to me. I stayed and tried, because I was raised to never give up. But I learned that real courage is choosing yourself. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and when that isn’t taken seriously, your self-worth has to come first.

Alongside this, you’ve stepped into presenting for the BBC around women’s empowerment. What responsibility comes with that platform?
It’s a huge honour. I present a motivational segment, and that’s where I really thrive. For me, it’s about putting that energy out into the world – encouraging women to choose themselves, to believe in themselves. You only get one life, and that matters. Right now nothing feels off-limits. I’m very open, because I think we need more honesty in the world. People resonate with truth.

Confidence is often misunderstood as certainty. What does confidence actually feel like for you now?
Freedom. I don’t get nervous anymore because I’m not putting on a show – I’m just being myself. I trust that life is unfolding the way it’s meant to. The process is everything now. I live without pressure, and I actually enjoy it. I call this chapter Sarover 2.0. I’ve never felt more authentically myself!