From Loss to Love: Dulari’s Powerful Journey as Mum

Dulari – Optometrist and Singer
Son: Ram
Being a single mother, the most rewarding part of my journey is knowing that my son sees me as his whole world, just as I do with him. However, the most challenging aspect has been accepting that he will never meet his father and that he hasn’t experienced a healthy mother-father dynamic. Instead, he associates this relationship with other people.
My resilience and strength in the face of adversity were shaped long before I became a mother. I lost my husband when I was 7 months pregnant, and that moment defined my journey. In that instant, I knew I had to prioritise my baby over my grief. My pregnancy surpassed my sorrow, which laid the foundation for the strength I needed to face motherhood on my own.
I hope my son sees me as a beacon of strength, never giving up, and facing challenges with determination and love. I want him to understand the importance of resilience and that he should never treat himself as a victim of his circumstances. Instead, he should learn to overcome challenges and emerge stronger and happier.
To me, Mother’s Day is about celebrating my own mum, my inspiration, strength, and biggest cheerleader. It’s a family day for all 12 of us to laugh, eat, and enjoy each other’s company.
To other single mothers struggling, I would say, take time to breathe and remember that your baby knows they are loved. Don’t forget to love yourself too. Celebrate the small wins, as they will motivate you to pursue bigger victories. You are the powerhouse and backbone of your family, and never forget your worth.